Never Settle For Less

Why settle for worse when you can claim all the best! There are a few things that I've observed about myself and that I have seen from others that could be considered settling for less and I want to elaborate on them.

Number 1: Allowing Deadbeat Guys to Dominate Your Life

     If you know he's no good, don't stay with him. If he doesn't have at least one of the qualities on your list, he's most likely not worth your time. Once you start letting yourself become available for deadbeat guys, you treat them like quality and they begin to get comfortable and start treating you like you're a deadbeat. This can lower your self-esteem and make others look at you as if you actually are dead-beat when you're not. Giving low-quality men a try is a set-up for failure. When I mean low quality, this has nothing to do with materialistic views but has to do with values, open-mindedness, humility, loyalty, and other good attributes a man should have.

Number 2: Buying Cheaper Goods

     I believe all should be able to dress as they please, regardless of designer brands just so you know my heart isn't shallow. But when it comes to quality of clothes, furniture, and food, oh boy! This is so crucial. If you buy a cheap chair, it is more likely to break faster than a quality chair, and the quality chair doesn't necessarily have to be more expensive. There are wide ranges of places to buy quality goods for lower prices without being cheated of your buck. Wholesale, clearance, and thrifting still look bomb. Just don't settle for cheaply made products or old food, because you actually waste money and harm yourself. Food poisoning and a hurt buttocks aren't the best choices.

Number 3: Staying in a Bad Circle

     You may have all been the best of friends for a whole year. Do they constantly tell you your ideas are trash; bruise your dreams? Do they always revert the conversation back to them when you speak about your accomplishments? Do they make fun of your appearance and tell you that you have to change? Don't be naive, you know you're not happy. Leave those friendships because they are toxic. They may treat you good here and there, but if the majority of those friendships rely on placing negativity on you, your best bet is to leave them. When you move from such settings, you allow room for those who truly relate to you to find you.

Number 4: Leave the 'Haters' Alone

     Are you constantly finding yourself in situations where people talk about you and all that you've done wrong? Guess what?! That's because you're popping and they want to see you fall and break your legs since they know you're a star! They are envious of you and know how to get to you! Continue to shine and not be bothered by them because if you settle for their negativity you won't be able to succeed. No one is perfect and we all have our shares of wrongs. And if they pick at your own wrongs, that shows that they are insecure about themselves. Forgive and move forward!


I hope you got a knock from this and laughed a little bit, but most importantly I hoped you gained something you can look to for encouragement this New Year! Have a blessed 2017, and continue to prosper. Be your best version of yourself! God bless.

Started With Travel, Digressed into Purpose .

     I want to go to places I've never been. I want to see different worlds within my own, to see the north and the south. I want to visit the place of my ancestors and meet relatives. I want to feel what it's like to be a young woman who can independently roam to different cities with her friends because she is of age. I want to shop at cute foreign boutiques and eat at small bakeries and cafes with good local reputation. I want to take endless pictures and meet new people. I want to go to the place where my Lord and savior once lived and to see His people. I want to create bonds and connections that can last a lifetime. I want to achieve all this before I'm married, and once I am, we will go to the rest of the world. We could go to Japan, Thailand, The islands, and all the other adventurous places I have yet to see. We could have dinner dates every single night and enjoy each other's company in new settings. But, before then, I want to live as a young person should live. I want to go on mission trips while I'm young and help others who are in need and give them a hope they may have yet to find. I want people to know that their strong and to know that they have a father in heaven who will give them that extra strength as long as they believe. I want to make progress in other countries, come back from trips and start businesses with other countries, make successes with others in these countries. I want to become a lead.

     Many people carry the close minded thought that they have to be a sign of wealth in their own country alone because of their patriotism. Even if they claim not to have pride in their own country, they still hold onto the belief that there is more quality compared to others. But, what's lost in that idea is that when other countries admire you, you become a translator of culture from one to the other and you become the selling point that makes other countries attracted to your own, and yours attracted to theirs. You remove barriers between crowds. Whatever your passion or talent is, If you're able to find your worldwide audience, they will cheer you on, which will eventually channel interest amongst many other types of people. Understand that you have power and it only takes out-of-the-box thinking to push you forward. As I continue to digress, take this with you: don't allow what you've been taught all of your life to put you in a box, you have to think differently than others and make the most out of your life by action. Thinking differently is equal to more impact that you can make.

How to Defeat Struggle in Your Life

     The number one point in defeating struggle in your life is to be continuously positive. It is very easy to find yourself in doubt of your abilities, especially when there is a constant cycle of stagnancy surrounding you. If you feel as if there is no way you can move forward, stand back and evaluate your situation, tell yourself that you WILL succeed, and APPLY your skills to your interests. You cannot allow your life to be a waste, just because your situation tells you that it is one. In all realness, no one is a wasted life; every human being on earth has a reason to live, whether it be to tell a story, to encourage, or to impact a nation. You have to find your PASSION and cultivate that into your purpose. The only way that you can truly do this is to find happiness in every situation. It is understood that not every situation is an easy one to get through and that those situations might be the break-down point of your life, but know that those trials are tests to see if you can be strong and still continue to shed your LIGHT. No one in life is able to achieve their greatest potential by allowing the enemy of their success to defeat them, no! You have to be confident in yourself. The saying "fake it till you make it" stands true. In order for you to be happy, it starts off with saying to yourself that you are capable of overcoming your situation, that you are strong enough, no matter what others say, and that you are enough, even if you don't believe you are. The help of others are great tools in moving forward, but you have to know that you have the power to move mountains. You are a queen or king ordained by God, but you have to KNOW that, and you have to LIVE as so. So, regardless of your current situation, remember these words, and let's win our possessions and become our definitions of greatness!

Being Terrible at Consistancy

Hey Guess what? I'm back again! I've been gone for a while, and I'm here to tell you why. My time management sucked this past semester of school. I am a biology major and a huge chunk of my time had to stay dedicated to my school work. My major asked for a lot of attention and I made sure to use my free time to turn up and get lit as much as possible to keep my spirits up, Next semester will ask for even more attention, but I want to take this time that I am off of school to get back in the groove of things, so that I have a better chance of managing my time more efficiently. So just know this winter break, I have a lot in store to give to you all starting this week. I hope you stay tuned for the stories, the art, and the lessons I've learned. Thank you!

Toxic, Toxic, Toxic

Whether it be your best friend, a family member, or your partner, if they don't treat you with up most respect, there may be the need for change. if there is always fight between the both of you and issues are never solved, it is toxic. If the person routinely lies to you, and you have the evidence that he or she is lying, it is toxic. If they continue to talk you down and make negative comments every time you accomplish a task, they're toxic. If they continue to hurt you, thinking that you will forgive them, they are toxic. You need to understand your worth if you don't know it now. If they are meant for your life, God will make a way to place them back in it. If they are worth fighting for, they wouldn't cause you pain on routine. Those meant for your life will always uplift you and tell you the truth when need be said, but they will never put you down for the sake of them feeling better and they will never disregard the special things that you do. A true romantic partner will tell you your beautiful even when your not looking your best because they would be your true love, not just any guy or girl who doesn't know what they want. Toxic family members may be harder to work with if they are toxic, but if you can tolerate their wrong, then so be it, but if they seriously hurt you, make sure to forgive and give them space. Forgiving anyone who maltreats you helps you move on with your life and helps them eventually realize that they hurt you. If you were to stay bitter and feed their negativity, they will use that as an excuse to continue. Forgive, forget, and move on. Don't stay stagnant, leave the guy who hurt you and work on yourself, move away from the friend who tried to ruin your name, and work on yourself. Working on  yourself will attract the people and destiny helpers meant for your life. Pamper yourself, get educated, stay humble, and all the things you want in life will find you. God bless and enter into success ! I know that was corny, but seriously.

Organization

It may take up time, it may cause you pain, but organizing your room, plans, and overall life can help you become the person you need to be. It may seem like a drag, but at the end of the task, I assure you that you'll feel brand new. Buy some cute organization cubes, get a planner, make plans to fit into a schedule, and just get busy. By getting busy, I don't mean that you should do more than what you're able to, but try to work enough to help you reach your goals. The more you do, the better the results of your goals will be. Organization helps a lot when it comes to setting goals because it clears stress and it takes away unnecessary clutter. So get rid of your obstacles and become a success! 

Persistence

I know that I 'm the last person that should talk about this, because my actions show that I lack this attribute, but recently I have discovered its importance. If you are persistent, people will see your dedication and begin to notice your talent. You will also improve faster and you'll analyze yourself more. You will develop better organization skills and give more time to your passion. Whether it be playing an instrument, training for a sport, creating media content, or starting a business, persistence is the greatest key every person needs. This morning, I woke up in a great amount of pain, but I remembered that writing this will benefit me and benefit others, and one day I'll be able to look back at this piece and learn from it again. Do better! Become a success!

Time Management

It's not an easy thing to do, but I had to make it my new routine. Most of my summer consisted of taking summer college classes. The summer program that I entered gave us a strict schedule to go by and our classes placed us in tight situations where we had an essay due one day and another literally due the next. In the beginning, "Ms. Procrastinator" was alive and waited to the time a paper was due, but towards the end I was more focused. There was nowhere to escape, but to accept the fact that we paid money for the program and we had to abide by the rules and do our very best. So that was my mindset, I paid for it, so I have no choice but to do great. I took that attitude and applied it to life because someone paid for my life, whether it be my guardians or my God. The mere fact that someone invested time in us, whether it's a big or small amount, should prompt us to do our very best. On that note, understand that making sure that your on top of your assignments only benefits you and no one else. So switch that attitude and become a success!

Are You Done Being MIA ?

I know I've been gone for a while, especially after I said some months ago that I would be back. but guess what? I'm back for good now! I will be uploading content at least twice a week because this upcoming school year has a lot to offer. Now that I will be attending college in about 3 and half weeks, I'm going to use this time to reflect and improve on myself. There will be so many stories, advice, and creative ideas. Anyone willing to join me should make sure to come back every Monday and Thursday. Enjoy!

LOL I'm Done Moping

    It doesn't benefit anyone for me to continue to put sadness out there. So, I feel up to it and I'm going be positive from now on and realize that life happens, Everyone goes through things and everyone places themselves in situations they aren't that "siked" about when trying to find out who they are. I am done looking for sure, I just needed a time for reflection. And anyone I may have hurt I'm sorry, I'm just another human being who was lost. Now that I have my head on tight, I will work more towards greatness and learn to stop being so irrational. I have a lot to do and to learn, and I'm glad I'm able to share them with you! Thank you for reading.

   I am looking forward to 2016 and it's gonna be great, I can just feel it. This journey will be worth it.

A Sketch

     Whoever wants to listen will listen. Whoever wants to avoid, will do the same. I find it crazy how when love is given to someone, they can do the impossible to lose that love. People go out of there way, and that someone still manages to mess up. Am I that person? Maybe I am, who really knows. The things that bother me, people do them everyday, some even worse, but for me this is a personal crime. Going back to the past doesn't make anything better, but when it replays in your mind, there is no choice but to deal with it. I don't mean to sound depressed, but pouring out how you feel can sometimes be the only remedy.
     Some situations I leave because they can be cancerous and some just for the heck of it. It may not seem fair to the "opposition", but eventually, they will find what truly matters to them, and they will flourish off with it. And me, being so confused and wrong, I don't want to in any way hinder that opportunity from anyone. Not that this accounts for every situation, but for some it stands true. On the other hand, there are situations that came to an end, due the stupidity of the opposition. A stupidity that has no strive, but to destroy. A stupidity of the opposition to become the enemy's dictator. If we were fighting a war, this would be a necessary motivation to win. And take a guess! We are not fighting a war. We shouldn't be at war, we shouldn't be competing if the goal is to win. We should be attempting to flourish and prosper together. So, I wonder why you chose to tear me down and make me bitter. What type of heart do you carry? I probably will never know. And no, this isn't a sappy solemn of love, just think about it.

Sort of a Dilemma

     It's kind of hard to say, but at this point in my life I've been having a lot of trouble understanding why I'm alive and what my purpose involves. Even though I'm still young, it feels as if I'm going through a "mid-life crisis" where I almost do anything as I please without realizing the consequences and who it affects. As I am trying to find my way back to "sanity", I am choosing to focus on writing and sharing my thoughts until I feel free and comfortable enough to show and entertain as I please. For now, I will spread wisdom, not only to benefit you, but me. I hope you enjoy.