How to Be a Cash College Baby!

   

     It may sometimes seem difficult. You may look at your friends and wonder, "How did they get that opportunity, and how come its so hard for me to get the same?" It's all about confidence. Coming into college I had no professional work experience. The only experience I had was assisting my mother in her entrepreneur activities as well as creating my own. She gave me insight to the overall working experience and this is what I put on my first resume. Sometimes experience at home, something as little as babysitting, is good enough to be considered prior work experience. It was vary  hard for me to get an off-campus job with the experience I had on my resume. No matter where I applied, it seemed like no one was interested in me. This is what prompted me to look for a job on campus. It is so much easier to get hired for a campus job for the fact that employers are understanding of students' needs financially to support their academic career. Usually, these on-campus jobs understand when an employee cannot come to work due to academic reasons. School will always come first in their eyes. For the fact the job would be on campus, commutes would cost little to nothing at all, saving you more money. The benefits are endless and this is unfortunately the gem that many students aren't aware of. Find out more about your school's specific system for applying to on-campus jobs and start making money! Or, you could just be a sugar baby lol

(p.s I am not promoting any specific organization or individual)

What is Love?

     

     I usually don't speak on topics like this, because in my opinion, the world's description of love has been swayed by personal emotions of infatuation. But, what does it mean to love? How does someone know when to say, "I love you?" Of course, we all have loved ones that we say we love and hold dear, but when it comes to that special individual outside of our family and friends, when are we sure that we love them? Is it by the things that they give us, physically or mentally? If someone cannot feed your mind and stimulate your aspirations, do they really love you? I'm not saying that receiving gifts, dinner, and entertainment shouldn't be appreciated, but if that's all you're getting, is that really love? If all you see when you look at them is sexual desire and no substance, is that really love? No one wants to be with someone who only brings them gifts to shut them up or brings them gifts in order to take away that one special thing that you may have. Love should be compared to a mental checklist. Do they care enough about you to be there if something tragic may happen in your life? Would they feed you and clean you if you were bed written? Would they travel miles to see you just to hold you if you were broken? Sometimes, you will never know how much love someone has for you until, God forbid, you are in a bad situation. But one thing that should be checked for sure, is their intentions. People will always show you signs of who they truly are once you tap into it. Some people will show you signs of their intentions after the first week of knowing them. It is important to be aware of the positive and negative signs in order to make these mental checks. For example, if a man only glorified and complimented the appearance of a woman's body at first conversation, that could be a red flag that he only cares for her looks. If a man first and foremost asks a woman about her aspirations and goes out of his way to encourage and attempt to open doors for that woman, that is a red flag that he truly cares for her and wants to see her grow. It's all about knowing your surroundings, having an understanding of the type of man/woman you look to pursue, and if you want to be completely loved, or only lusted after. I hope that the difference is clear, you have to know your own worth, love yourself, before another being can give that same love to you. 

(I don't believe you are ever too young to know what love is, to each their own)

Delaware's Diversity

     'Dela-Where'? 'HellaWare' as some call it, even 'DelaWhack' , but something that I have come to realize over the years is that where ever you are, you have to make the most of it. Delaware is known for its farm land and country-like culture; it is a place that seems to lack variety. But as the eye looks deeper, it can see the bright colors of diversity. A blend of various backgrounds that almost seamlessly unite as one minority, and we all have something unique to bring to the table!

#Delaware'sDiversity

Individuals involved: (Manny, Chelsea, Jaelin, Luah, Kenon, Kenon's Dog, Grace, Me)

Photography: Noah DuQue 

Instagram: @dirtyduu

"YOU DON'T NEED A JOB"

     When I say this, I don't mean you should abandon the fact of making money, I only mean that why waste your time and day working for someone else, when you can create your own source of income? Everyone has a gift, right? You need to tap into your gift and make something great out of it. What do you find the most joy in? It could be painting landscapes, or even writing songs. But the issue a lot of us face is that we look at our gifts as hobbies, we don't see the benefit out of them, but that is where we are wrong. Make a list of all of the possible business ideas that you would be interested in. Then, cancel out all of the ones that you feel you couldn't 100 percent be accountable for. After you have a list of all of the possible business idea you are confident in, pick two. Pick two and focus on them both. You will see that as you focus on the two business ideas, you may flourish at both and do amazingly well at keeping up with them, or you may struggle with one more than the other. If you see yourself struggling with one over the other, drop the difficult one. I'm not saying you should abandon it completely, but the easier idea will facilitate life in the long run and you will be able to provide for the other one, if still pursued. Here are some tips in summary and new when creating your own business:

1. choose your hobby.

For example, teaching drumming classes, it can even be as simple as tutoring in a class you're really good at

2. Always have a plan B.

Never give up so easily, always have a side hustle, but don't forget the final goal is to work for yourself

3. Take your time.

Your best work is never rushed, the more time you take, the more respect you will receive from customers and the more positive feedback you will receive

These are some of the things that I have learned in the past year and I am happy to share this info with you. I hope that everyone maximizes their potential and realizes how great of an impact they can  make with their talents. Blessings and more life to everyone!

What does Self Worth Even Mean?

     Every day, thousands of people preach this thing called "self-worth" and I've been trying my best to tag along. I've realized over a long period of time since about the seventh grade that I've been writing songs, poetry, and free-writing about being strong, overcoming, and being beautiful. I've come a long way, but somewhere between I still have some issues that have strung along. I embrace my beauty and embrace having passions for several things, but no one really knows that. And even though I try to convince myself that I don't do things for the acceptance of others, I realize that I've been lying to myself. All these years trying to look different, act different, and break conformity, a part inside of me wanted to feel apart and included, I didn't want to isolate myself. Me being different gave me the idea that I needed to act even more different so that people that are for me will be able to relate to that "me", not knowing that "me" wasn't even me at all. I was basically trying way too hard. I ended that phase with the understanding that I have to continue to love the quirky and awkward person that I am. I now know how to love my awkwardness and regard negative comments towards it. But the side I don't embrace includes the goofy and confident jokester, no one other than my close family and loved ones know that side. Unmutual people that have seen me leave my shell, tell me that I don't even act like that; that I'm faking, and that hurts sometimes. Why does it hurt? Because I still allow the opinions of others to affect me. I know who I am, so why do what they like, what they do, or how social they are, really matter? If they aren't me it shouldn't matter. This is where self-love and self-worth start. Your life shouldn't depend on another man's standard, it should depend on yours and that's why you're you. You have to block everything out and become conceited. Yes! You may be thinking what is she talking about, but that is exactly what you have to do. You have to be the happiest person in the world. Start with being selfish for a week.  It doesn't matter what your past consists of, who you've hurt or what you've done, forgive yourself and take the time to become reborn. Remember that this doesn't have to include material things, because at the end of the day when your material lifestyle is gone, what will you have left? It starts with knowing what you love and being great at it. Be the best at all that you do, and when you start that way, happiness will automatically enter your life. This is something I learned this past year in which I fully understood my self-worth and I plan to be completely selfish this year until I reach accomplishments that will cause happiness never to leave my heart. I hope you do the same too!

Thank You.

How to Deal With Uptight Parents

Hey! If you're a youth who understands what it is to live with overbearing and protective parents, this read is for you.

     Do you find yourself questioning why you can't go out with your friends at night? Do you wonder why you're parents feel the need to force you to stay at home all the time? Do your parents always say no to everything you ask relating to anything that seems fun? Ask yourself this question first, "what am I doing that is wrong?" If you refuse to finish your chores, if you don't focus in school, and if you laze around the house, you are giving your parents a reason to hold you from enjoyment, point blank. But I'm not pointing fingers, this was me. When you do as they please, you give them a reason to deem you responsible, they'll look at you as a good child, and may even reward you for it. If you are already doing these things and are still given the answer no to go to that party, it may be deeper. You may have the "fearful for their lives" parents or the "God says no" parents. These type of parents will usually throw you one in a million reasons as to why you shouldn't go. For example, they may say that at prom, people get pregnant, or at prom, people drink and drive and then die. Although this may occur to few, assure them that you won't dabble in such activity, if you have to, refer to an older friend or family member who they may love who went to prom, this is known to lighten up such a parent's decision. For the Strong in Faith parent, they may be quick to give scriptures as to why you shouldn't go and why certain things are wrong. They may even speak of having dreams, which is very popular in the African community lol. If you don't feel a personal conviction, honestly my best advice is just to pray about it, ha!!! There's not much to advise in this area other than that because I myself am a witness when I would go against the word, God would easily, sometimes in a scary way, wake me up. This is my own experience and may differ from person to person. You may be able to get away with certain things that I just could never even penetrate the surface of because my journey was different. Although sneaking around may be easier, it is better to be honest and open with your parents so that the relationship can grow, and so that they see how serious you are about what you want. Even though we as kids want to persuade our stubborn parents and have it our way, we have to remember they were once kids, and life recycles, so a majority of what we go through, they have experienced or heard of. So it is wise to at least listen to them before you go ahead and screw up because it will benefit you in the long run.

Thank You

Why I Haven't Yet Exploded

I feel as if I am pressed back. I feel like I can't do what I have set out to do, there's always something in the way, and I know that saying that says "You are the creator of your own obstacles, and that they do not exist" but they feel solely present to me. There are so many things that I write lists about every year that I tell myself I need in order to be successful, but what I have yet to realize is that if that success already lives in my mind, it's just the matter of what platform I choose to use and how I will get that dream out there. I wanna be big, let me rephrase that. I'M GOING TO BE big, and so are you. You have to let that dream wake up and come to the realization that it's real. It's not another realm, it pre-exists here and is waiting for its blooming season. I do this a lot, I go into a rambling motivating sh-peel to myself, but one thing I don't do is follow through. I can inspire anyone, but I myself struggle to do it, every day. I have helped others maximize their potential while I'm still living in a circle. I want to strive and cry. I want the type of success story where you stay up late and cry because you deprive yourself of food and sleep, but one day no longer deprive but abundantly provide. I'm waiting for that day and the day it will start. Because we all have to start somewhere,

Good Blessings.